The Power of the “Have You Done It Yet?” Friend

Ever notice how the hardest part of a journey is often just taking that first step? In this episode, Pam shares how one simple text — “Have you done your run yet?” — broke through two years of running procrastination. That small nudge led to more than the planned one-mile run; it sparked an unexpected three-mile journey and reignited her passion for clarity and momentum.

Natalie and Pam unpack why accountability is one of the most underestimated tools in building resilience, how to distinguish between “should goals” and “joy goals,” and practical ways to turn intentions into lasting habits.

Featured Episode Summary

Episode 51 — Why Your Friend Who Texts "Have You Done It Yet?" Is Your Secret Weapon

This episode dives into the psychology of momentum — the magical force that takes us from resistance to action, and from action to achievement. Key moments include:

• The Accountability Catalyst: How one check-in from a friend can shift you from avoidance to accomplishment.

• Joy Goals vs. Should Goals: Why goals driven by genuine desire give you energy, while those based on external expectations often stall.

• The Friction Audit: How to identify (and eliminate) the obstacles that keep you stuck.

• Small Wins, Big Momentum: How breaking large goals into small, manageable steps creates a sense of progress that fuels further action.

Episode Insights & Proclamations Explained

Stand Strong Against Challenges
Challenges test our resolve, but having someone in your corner can give you the push to keep going. Accountability helps you stand firm when self-doubt creeps in.

Make Resilience a Superpower
Resilience isn’t just about bouncing back — it’s about learning how to keep moving forward, even in small steps, and finding strength in consistent action.

Learn Through Our Journeys
Each attempt, success, and setback offers valuable lessons. As Pam’s running story shows, momentum often comes from simply starting and adjusting as you go.

Turn Challenges into Opportunities
That run Pam had been putting off wasn’t just exercise — it became a moment of clarity, proving that challenges can spark new energy and growth.

Build Strong, Supportive Communities
The “Have you done it yet?” friend is a reminder that our circles matter. Surround yourself with people who encourage action, not excuses.

Prioritize Well-Being
Setting goals that energize you (joy goals) ensures your mental, emotional, and physical health are part of the plan.

Learn from Setbacks
Two years of procrastination didn’t stop Pam — it gave her insight into what was holding her back and how to overcome it.

Cultivate Emotional Intelligence and Empathy
Understanding whether your goals come from joy or obligation requires self-awareness — a cornerstone of emotional intelligence.

Lead with Integrity and Authenticity
Following joy goals means living in alignment with your values and passions, rather than chasing external approval.

Pursue Knowledge and Self-Improvement
Every friction audit, accountability check, and progress step builds not just skill, but self-trust and confidence.

Tools to Resiliency

• Find Your Accountability Partner: Choose someone who will check in regularly and celebrate your wins.

• Conduct a Friction Audit: List the small obstacles keeping you from progress, then create solutions for each.

• Shift from Should to Joy: Ask yourself if your goals light you up or weigh you down — adjust accordingly.

• Break It Down: Divide big goals into bite-sized steps that feel achievable.

• Schedule Your Priorities: Put your joy goals in your calendar first, then build your other tasks around them.

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Sometimes all it takes is one question — “Have you done it yet?” — to shift you from stuck to unstoppable. Here’s to taking that first step, embracing the momentum, and surrounding yourself with people who cheer you on every step of the way.

With resilience and sisterhood,
The Reignite Resilience Team 💛